I am officially a mama of 2! I am truly thankful for all the love and support we have received from family and friends. It takes a village to raise children and we are lucky to have amazing people around us.
You can't expect everything to go as planned because most of the time it doesn't. I was hoping for a delivery without the epidural but I ended up needing it. I thought when your water breaks, it would be clear. Well, mine wasn't and that was a little scary at first. I thought I knew what the recovery process was going to be like but I had some new experiences this time around. First, my hospital bag. It looks like I didn't need to bring half of the stuff I brought. I would of been fine with my purse, his diaper bag, robe, going home clothes for me and the little one.
As for the recovery process, there were a couple things I experienced that I didn't the first time:
1) Painful cramps while breastfeeding
Apparently this usually happens after your 2nd baby. When you breastfeed, your uterus is contracting to it's pre pregnancy size. The 2nd time around, your uterus is not as firm as the first pregnancy. So it works extra hard to shrink down to it's "pre-pregnancy" size, which causes the painful, almost contraction-like, cramps. Did I mention painful? Yes, it was pretty intense while I was recovering in the hospital.
2) Swollen feet, hands and face
When I came home, I looked at my feet and noticed 2 elephant trunks. My feet didn't get swollen during my pregnancies so this was new. After giving birth, the blood and fluids (ex: IV fluids) from my labor had to go somewhere and this time it went to my feet, hands and face. Two weeks later, my feet are almost back to its normal size.
All around my recovery process is much slower this time around. I still look a little pregnant. During my first pregnancy, I didn't have a big pouch after the first week. I guess carrying a 9-pound baby will take some extra time (sigh). Looks like I won't be bikini ready by next week.
Aside from the recovery process, I am definitely more at ease. Don't get me wrong, I am still very exhausted and sleep deprived. I'm not as worried as I was with Brookie, wondering what to do to stop her from crying while pacing back and forth for hours in the bedroom. I try to stick to the usual routine; sleep, eat, change diaper and hopefully some wake time before going back to sleep. I am soaking up all of his baby cuteness as much as possible because before I know it he will be too big to carry around in my arms. The sweetest moments are the big sister and brother interactions. Brookie is so loving and is constantly giving him kisses on his head. I look forward to watching them grow up together. Now I can't even imagine a life without the both of them.
Oh and can't forget this special treat my cousin brought when she came over to visit with her family... Rosco's Chicken & Waffles! Yum!! We devoured it all! It's not zero waste but I'm telling myself it's nearly impossible to live zero waste when you just had a baby.
My cousin posted an article on Facebook on how to make your own toothpaste. That article led me to Bea Johnson's blog, zerowastehome.com, and I was inspired on a whole new level.
I graduated with a bachelor's degree in Environmental Analysis and Design. I had the intention of working for an environmental agency and my young self thought I could single-handedly save the world. Once I stepped into the real world, I was exposed to the fun and more exciting life of fashion, music and entertainment. I thought I was cool enough to be a part of that world. Being a pescatarian (eating seafood but no meat) for 9 years was my "environmental duty" and fashion became my world.
When I found out I was pregnant something in my mind switched. I didn't care what was on trend anymore and after working in fashion related companies, it just became jaded. When I became a mother and I realized we were going to raise a family with one income, reality set in. Instead of having a goal to get that super cool, latest and greatest "It" bag, my goals shifted. Now I have to figure out how we're going to stay on budget and how to minimize all the "stuff" we buy. With the help from Bea Johnson's Zero Waste Home book (I bought the Nook version) and doing countless hours of research on the internet, I decided to take on the challenge of living minimally and ideally zero waste. Not only will it help reduce the unnecessary "stuff" in our lives but financially, it will help us spend less in the long run. The ultimate goal is to be debt-free, living a minimalist lifestyle so we can enjoy a more meaningful life. We would love to travel more and explore the beautiful world we live in.
Towards the end of last year, I started the slow transition. Buying from bulk bins, reducing the use of plastic containers and replacing with glass or stainless steel. I started making my own floor cleaner, all-purpose cleaner, hand soap, toothpaste and buying compostable toothbrushes from Brush with Bamboo. I go to my local farmers market to buy eggs, fruits and vegetables. I can bring the egg cartons back for reuse and there are no stickers on the produce. I bring my own bags and produce bags to minimize the use of plastic bags and containers. This year, I started making my own laundry detergent and bought microfiber towels for cleaning around the house and microfiber sponges for washing dishes. I grew up washing dishes by hand and never liked how the dishwasher cleaned dishes. The dish washer in our current home isn't that great either.
In the beauty department, I use grapeseed oil as my night time moisturizer, coconut oil as my makeup remover and tea tree oil as an on-the-spot acne treatment. The tea tree oil can also be used in your hand soap, all-purpose cleaner, and to treat bug bites. It's a lot of trial and error but I feel like once I get the recipes down, I won't need to make many trips to the store to buy bottles and plastic containers of hand soap, laundry detergent, and floor cleaner. I'll have a small amount of ingredients I can use to make everything.
Here are few of my current hit and misses:
Misses
1) Composting
The city I live in provides free composting bins. I decided to pick one up and start composting. This hasn't been easy to implement into my daily routine. I would add food scrapes in my small bin in the kitchen but I would have to dump it out every 2 to 3 days because it would start to mold. Often times I would forget and the food scrapes would sit for a week. Yuck! I also see more bugs in the composting container than actual rich soil. I think worm composting would be best, but I will have to do more research to get all the proper materials I need. I'm in need of some hands-on tips on composting 101, a topic that was surprisingly not discussed when I was in college.
2) Dish washing soap
I haven't found a good recipe that works. Since I hand wash our dishes, the recipes that use the ingredients I already have don't clean properly. They leave water marks on my dishes and my glasses are cloudy. I believe it's mainly because we have hard water. We are currently renting our home so this issue won't change until we buy our own home. Currently I use Seventh Generation free & clear. It's safe to use based on the rating on EWG.org and I can recycle the container. It's not the ideal situation, but it will work for now.
3) Items I can't buy in bulk bins
There are a lot of snacks and items that are not available in bulk in my area; such as pasta, Dr. Bronner's liquid castile soap, organic snacks, non-GMO items, tea, Wallaby organic yogurt, vinegar, shampoo and honey. I need to do more research on this.
4) Cereal in bulk bins
Jathan loves Captain Crunch cereal. No matter how many times I tell him how bad it is for him, I know that I can't deprive him completely from food he loves. We can live life a little, right? We're noticing that our daughter is starting to develop his taste buds. She loves cereal, especially since she sees him eat big bowls of it, but I hate giving her cereal from all the major brands (GMO products is a whole other issue I have). I know sometimes its unavoidable but I do my best to give her cereal with no GMO ingredients, like EnviroKidz Organic Gorilla Munch Cereal. Since they love their cereal, I still buy boxes of cereal which aren't available in bulk bins at my local grocery store.
5) Beauty department
I haven't really tackled this department. I still use the make-up I have. The shampoo I use is in a plastic bottle but it is safe to use based on EWG.org's rating. I would like to finish using all the items I do have before switching over. I started using a Dr. Bronner's unscented baby-mild bar soap as a face wash and so far I have no complaints.
6) Toilet paper
We still use Charmin. We've tried toilet paper made from recyclable material that were individually wrapped in recyclable packaging (instead of plastic) but it was too thin and we were not fans.
7) Diapers and wipes
Since we have baby #2 on the way, I thought about using cloth diapers and cloth wipes. I had a pair of cloth diapers for Brookie and we used them periodically while using disposable diapers. They weren't a hassle at all and would love to use them for baby #2 but due to our finances and friends and family gifting us with disposable diapers, it's cheaper to use the free diapers we've received instead of buying 20 to 30 reusable diapers. Maybe later on, I can invest in a few more cloth diapers. As for wipes, we use baby wipes a lot. I could use reusable but then it's a battle between going green versus convenience so I still need to rethink this.
8) We still eat out at restaurants every once in awhile. Again, it comes down to what's easier for me.
Hits
1) Making my own jarred jalapeños
Jathan loves anything spicy and making my own jarred jalapeños is so much easier than I thought.
2) Making my own pizza dough
I can't find yeast in bulk bins but making my own pizza dough is really easy and make it often for dinner
I bring my Klean Kanteen insulated bottle everywhere I go. I don't like drinking from plastic water bottles. It's not necessary when the filtered water from your tap at home requires more regulation on cleanliness than bottled water (one thing I learned from one of my environmental courses). I mostly fill up my Klean Kanteen with ice cold water but I can use it for hot drinks too. We do have big jugs of bottled water in our laundry room in case of an emergency.
I keep a bag of reusable bags in my car so that I always have them on hand
7) Making my own toothpaste
This one became a hit for me but a miss for Jathan. Actually he's never tried it but I know he won't like it. It took a while for me to get used to it and the coconut oil would leave residue on the sink, which eventually collected more dirt. So I played with a few recipes and found one that worked best for me. I noticed that Brush with Bamboo toothbrushes work best because the bristles on plastic toothbrushes harden from the baking soda, plus I didn't want to use plastic toothbrushes anymore. Both Jathan and I use the bamboo toothbrushes.
We still have paper towels but when I started using microfiber towels, I reduced my use of paper towels greatly. I don't need to buy a big bag of paper towels from Costco anymore. I use the microfiber towels for cleaning the house, as a hand towels in the kitchen and drying off washed fruits and vegetables.
So far no complaints with these sponges. They're bigger than the average rectangular sponges, they're actually the shape of a circle. It was a little weird to use at first but they're much better than the disposable sponges and don't produce excess waste. I simply throw them in the washing machine with the microfiber towels when they need a good clean.
It is made of plastic but it's a much better option than the Swiffer Sweeper floor mops. I can make my own floor cleaner and add it to container. I simply throw the microfiber pad in the washing machine with the microfiber towels when it gets dirty. *Note: to keep the longevity of microfiber materials, you shouldn't wash them with your towels.
Going completely zero waste hasn't been easy. Mainly for cost reasons. The initial investment can get expensive. I still have plastic in my home and excessive stuff that I don't want or need. Although I am in the slow process of decluttering everything. I still use wrapping paper, buy greeting cards, mail Thank You cards, use disposable plates during parties and buy new clothes for our daughter. I hope to change all this soon.
Also, I can't always make it to the farmer's market on the weekends and sometimes I have to run to the store where they have organic strawberries and organic grapes in plastic containers. I recycle the containers but not all plastic is recyclable so eventually I would like to avoid plastic completely. Whatever we can recycle, we do. But it comes down to me planning better. It's a slow process but I'm making some progress. When it comes to waste, Canada has a much better waste program. I wish the United States would keep up with Canada and the rest of the world. We're really behind when it comes to improving the environment and providing healthier food choices.
CNN's Morgan Spurlock did an episode on where our garbage goes and features Bea Johnson, I recommend watching that episode if you're interested in learning more about this zero waste topic. He shows you exactly where our waste goes and why we should be aware of what we throw away. Here's a brief video on Bea Johnson's zero waste home, ideally I would love my kitchen to look similar to hers... clean, without excess "stuff":
I will continue to update you on my journey towards a zero waste/minimalist lifestyle. I don't think our family can completely become a zero waste family like Bea Johnson's family, but I hope we can come close to it by achieving a minimalist lifestyle.
With my first pregnancy, I barely touched my hospital bag. This time around, I packed lighter. You don't need the million of "stuff" that most of those lists on Pinterest tell you to bring. The hospital will provide mostly everything you'll need. They'll provide all the products you'll need to take care of yourself and your baby. When you get that almost $2,000 hospital bill in the mail after you deliver your baby, you won't feel guilty bringing home a stash of diapers, pads and pairs of mesh underwear with you. Embrace the mesh underwear! You don't want to buy or bring your own underwear that you'll just throw away. If you think you're going to walk out of the hospital in your pre-baby clothes and a thong, then you must have magical powers. I've never had a cesarean, so I'm not sure what the recovering process would be like.
Bath towel - For when you shower. The hospital will provide some but I like my own
Robe - Not necessary but this time around I want to look somewhat presentable when visitors arrive. The hospital gown is what I mostly wore because nice PJs will get bloody.
Socks and/or cozy slippers
Toiletries - The basics (shampoo, body wash, toothbrush, toothpaste, comb, etc) for when you shower. If you need a hairdryer and your flat iron/curling iron, then you can bring that too.
Light make-up - I didn't wear any last time, but this time around, I want to try to look decent and not look like a hot mess
Going home outfit - Comfortable, loose clothing, dark colors, maybe even maternity clothes
Wallet
Hospital paperwork
Phone
Charger
iPad
Pillow - Optional
C2O coconut water and 2 packets of Mother's Milk tea - my personal preference. I don't like the taste of most coconut water brands so I'm going to bring my own. The Mother's Milk tea contains fenugreek, which helps with milk production. It is doctor approved. The hospital can provide the hot water and honey for the tea.
Baby Bag includes:
Going home outfits - 2 to 3 outfits, you really don't know how big or small he/she will be
Swaddle blanket - the nurses will swaddle your baby with a blanket the hospital provides, but you can bring your own if you want to.
Nursing cover - Optional, this is a personal preference. I used my Bebe au Lait nursing cover all the time with Brookie. I think if I had boobs like Scarlett Johanssan, I would probably bare it all everywhere I go.
That's pretty much it! Like I said before, the hospital provides a lot of the things you will need. Don't go out and buy everything, you'll waste your money. You can use all the cute baby stuff when you come home from the hospital. Plus, you'll want to leave extra room in your bag for all the things you'll be bringing home.
Other items on my To-Do List
Aside from getting the nursery decorated, putting the car seat in car and pre-washing all the cute little clothes, there are a few things I want to do before the arrival of our little one.
1) Pamper yourself
Get a pedicure. You can't reach your feet anyways, it's a perfect excuse. Get manicure or massage. Get a complete makeover, if you can. Whatever it is, treat yourself because having a baby is no easy task. It will change your life. Once your baby arrives, you will officially be in mama mode and sometimes taking care of yourself will be the last thing on your list.
2) Sleep
I know everyone says it but seriously, the days of sleeping in will be a distant past. When you're newborn sleeps, you'll want to stay up and watch him/her sleep. They look like angels when they sleep. As time goes by, you will get more sleep but it won't be the same. For some reason, I can wake up in the middle of the night with the drop of a pin. You become highly sensitive to noise and those days when you would sleep like a college student is long gone. If you're one of those mamas that don't need sleep, I envy you! I know some people can function with very little sleep. I wish I had that energy!
3) Prepare pre-made frozen meals, buy a bunch of snacks or be prepared to eat to-go meals
We don't eat at restaurants as much as we did, before we had kids. Living with one income, I've had to figure out how to maximize the food I buy at the grocery store. It's still a process and I'm still learning how to keep within budget.
I remember eating oatmeal and drinking hot Mother's Milk tea everyday for the 1st month. If you're the cook in the family, like myself, the last thing you want to do is prepare homemade meals everyday. For the first couple of weeks, you'll be weak from the delivery, sleep deprived and a human milk machine (if you're breastfeeding). You'll need the fuel to give you energy. Prep cut up fruit and veggies in storage containers or meals you can easily heat up. It was so helpful when family would drop by with meals. My mom stocked my fridge when we came home for the hospital, she's the best! My cousin and her husband came by with Rosco's Chicken and Waffles and I was in heaven! It was the best meal ever! It really takes a village to raise children.
4) Download a contraction timer app and baby nursing tracker on your phone
As you know, you don't want to go to the hospital the moment you feel contractions. If you're water breaks, that's a different story. For the most part, you'll want to wait until your contractions are less than 5 minutes apart and last a minute long for an hour. Typically you use the 5-1-1 rule or if you can 3-1-1, which are contractions that are 3 minutes apart. You definitely don't want to go to the hospital too soon because they will send you home.
The contraction timer app was easy enough for me to press 'start' and 'stop'. I didn't have to look at a clock and write down interval times. The pain became too intense! For me, contractions started around 5pm on Thursday and I didn't deliver Brookie until Friday at 2pm. It was a long process, which is usually the case for 1st time mamas so I'm hoping the 2nd time will be a quickie.
At the hospital, the nurses will want to know every time you nursed and for how long. They make you write it down, but I always forgot to write it down. The app is an easy way to keep track. Sometimes I would forget to press 'start' and 'stop' while nursing but it's great when you go to your baby's doctor visits. For your monthly pediatrician visits, the doctor will ask you how often your baby eats, how many times you change diapers, how many poops a day, how many hours of sleep, etc. The baby tracker app will help you answer all these questions.
5) Make treats for the nurses and doctors
They deserve a "Thank You" for what they do. The things they see and do amazes me. I don't want to get too graphic but delivering a baby is not a pretty business. I felt like a complete mess after my delivery. They took care of me and saw things I didn't want to see. I thought to myself, "What is that coming out of my vagina?! That is not cute!" Although cookies and candy aren't enough for their hard work, it's a little something I can give to show my appreciation.
Jathan wanted to spend a day going to museums, but he didn't know that it was free museum day. We attempted to go to MOCA because they have an Andy Warhol exhibit. When we drove pass the entrance to find parking, there was an extremely long line. Instead of dealing with the headache of downtown parking and the long line, we went to LACMA. This was a much better experience.
When we got there, they told me about NexGen. It's a free youth membership program for kids under 18 years old. They get free admission, including one accompanying adult. This is an awesome program and we will be going to LACMA more frequently now.
Before exploring the exhibits, we made reservations to eat at Ray's restaurant. Special thank you to Weeze and Vince for the complimentary champagne (of course, a non-alcoholic version for me) and chocolate dessert, it was a nice treat for Jathan and I. Now that we're parents and are living off of one income, we don't eat at nice restaurants very often anymore. If it weren't for my friends, we would of settled for the food trucks in front of the museum, which also smelled delicious as we walked by them. Ideally, I would make lunches to save money but I haven't quite mastered the art of making good picnic style lunches that we both like to eat.
These days Brookie doesn't like sitting in high chairs and I am not sure when and why that became a problem. So for the entire meal, she was on my lap.
This was Jathan's idea to have me lay on the bench with my hat on my face. He's comes up with some really interesting ideas. When it comes to photography, he is definitely more creative than I am.
I am glad Jathan made me go out today. I was really adamant in going because I wanted to stay home all day to do errands and work on a dresser we bought on Craigslist for Brookie's room.
The transition from baby to toddler is such an interesting time. When they're a baby, you look forward to them walking, crawling, talking, and being more independent. Then when they start walking, crawling, talking and being more independent, you sometimes wish they were still a little baby who stayed in one spot until you moved them. Tantrums, screaming and crying in public places is not enjoyable, frustrating and often times you want to pull your hair out. Chasing them around the house so you can put clothes on them, change their diaper or comb their hair can get annoying. Then there are those little moments that happen randomly throughout the day that make you smile. Those moments remind you why being a parent is such an amazing experience.
Here are some moments to remind myself because before I know it my little, wild daughter won't be a little toddler anymore.
- When I give her an orange, she says "Tank you mama, Oh you welcome"
- When she bumps into the dog, she says "Oh sorry Zeus!"
- When she counts to 10, "one, two, tree, four, fives, sic, seven, eight, nine.... ten!"
- When she tells you to sit down in her little chair, she says "Good girl" after you sit down.
- When she's trying to sing the words of her favorite songs that are constantly on repeat:
Taylor Swift - "Shake it off" (she calls the song "Shake")
Michael Jackson - "Love Never Felt so Good" (she calls the song "Jackson")
Justin Timberlake - "Pusher Love" (she calls the song "JTT" but lately she's been into
his other songs, depending on her mood)
- When I open an image of her on the computer, she say "Cool!"
- When her dad is doing whatever he can to make her laugh, she says "Papa silly"
- She loves music, so every time she dances is a special treat!
I love birthdays and giving gifts! I always try to think of thoughtful gifts for people, I really enjoy picking out items that they might enjoy and gift wrapping it to make it look pretty. If I had all the money in the world, I would give gifts all the time and have a gift wrapping room in my house.
Now that I'm a mama, it's easier to understand what kids want/need. My single 24-year-old self, would just stick with a toy but would of probably paced up and down the toy aisles to figure out which toy to get, "Spiderman or Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle? But if I get Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle, will he like Leonardo or Donatello? Wait, what if he has all of them already?" I can be very indecisive when given the time and in my younger years, I had time to roam around for hours. I still do if Brookie allows me to, but most times, it's in and out of stores in a timely manner. So nowadays, it's a lot of pre-planning and knowing what I need to get before I go to the store. We were invited to our friend's son's 3rd birthday party and I came up with ideas on what to give as a gift.
Books - Books, Books, Books! In my opinion, these are the best gifts to give a child or baby. As a parent, reading to my child is part of the daily routine. It has helped her learn words faster. She understands us when we tell her, "Go pick out a book for us to read." She walks over to her books and decides which one she wants and we read. I encourage all first time mamas to start reading to their baby early, it truly helps.
Clothes - When buying clothes for kids, they're usually true to size, but it is best to ask the mama beforehand to make sure. Same with shoes, always ask before buying and include a gift receipt.
Puzzles and Educational games - Anything that helps a child's cognitive development is always a good gift. At around age 3 to 4, kids begin to learn how to put puzzles together and enjoy board games. Puzzles are a treat for parents too because it is fun for the whole family and kids can sit for hours trying to put a puzzle together. Okay, maybe not hours, but enough to give the person in charge a quiet little break.
Waterproof Disney Planes toy (Kids love playing with water)
Candy (Not a fan for mamas but I know he loves candy. Plus, you can't have treasure without candy!)
Isn't this chest box awesome?! I'm all about useful gifts. I can imagine him adding his own treasure in it and creating a map to find his treasure. It also works great as a cool storage box for his mom to use.
We stopped by Abbot Kinney (again) before going to the party. We just love the atmosphere there. I love the cute stores. It makes me want to buy everything. Jathan loves the aesthetic and taking photos. We talk about how cool it would be to have a beach house near there.
I can seriously wear this dress everyday. It's so comfortable! Being a mama, I'm all about throwing something on and being comfortable. Shout out to my sister, for buying this dress for me!
It's cute when they're independent. They're content playing with whatever they have around them while the mamas and papas enjoy talking with one another. It's the little things.
The birthday boy was happy eating his birthday cupcake!
July has been filled with weddings and birthday parties. I am actually looking forward to August because we don't have anything planned...yet.
A wonderful friend of mine got married on Saturday. It was great to see all my friends! I feel like now that everyone is getting married and starting families, we don't get to see each other as much. I remember when we used to see each other every weekend, whether it was eating at a restaurant, hanging out at a friend's house, watching sports or going out to a show or club in LA. I miss those carefree days. Balancing mamahood and a social life has been a struggle but something I'm working on.
Jamie (not me, the bride) looked gorgeous as always!
They used Aww Snap! Photo Booth for their wedding. I thought it was pretty awesome that they posted all the photos onto Facebook almost immediately so you can share them.
On Sunday, we went to a 1st birthday party. It started off as a gloomy day, it rained for a few minutes but it didn't stay long. Once the sun came out, everyone was ready to party!
The adults started dancing, so Brookie decided to show them her dance moves. #turnup
Great music, good food and beautiful people. Everyone had a good time!
After the birthday party we headed over to Venice and walked around Abbot Kinney. We were meeting with friends for a little get together. This was actually our first time walking through Abbot Kinney and we loved the vibe! We're definitely going back to take more photos!
Toms' flagship store was pretty cool. It's a coffee shop/store/hang out with your laptop, dogs or friends. I love the decor, it embodies the Toms brand and what they stand for. I've always been a fan of Toms shoes and it's amazing that they're able to successfully use fashion to change the lives of others.
